when is the last time

when is the last time
you tried to save
a relationship
from itself

when is the last time
you badged in as the chief scout
or the resident mother hen
to rescue your best friend
from what to them is bliss
but what to you is hell

when is the last time
you looked at
other people's relationships
through
the jaundiced eyes
of your own conflicted ones
passing on to others
valuable tips
you really should
apply to yourself
first

when is the last time
you fretted and frowned
over the possibility
that your best friend
binti fulani wa fulani
had decided
they were
going to
lower their drawers
for that
canine
in human form
you spent
the last
three weeks
warning her to stay completely away from

when is the last time
you minded your own business?